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Aug. 20th, 2008

  • 12:11 PM
Lately I have been thinking a lot about myself,and love,and          relationships.(ok--just this am--but still...)I just wanted to share....

            I believe in love...but as an expession of admiration for the  values I appreciate in others...which were first found in myself. Any love I feel for another is merely an extension of my love for             myself....                                                                                   
When I am dissapointed in love I find myself wondering if I was      wrong in my choice.

                         Altho I have occasionally used the term I don't       believe in **the One**.I believe there are many paths we can take-
-lots of ways and people to be happy with.So when I find myself on the end of one path--I retrace my steps and begin another.             

                      I believe that even if we love someone--that doesn't mean we should be together.I have always had the hardest time      with this--I am pretty stubborn and will try a lot to make something work.When I should just move on....                                          
                                                                                                

                    I believe love can overcome all and survive--but must be a work in progress.It requires effort and this is why I dislike the  term **falling in love**.I prefer **growing in love**.It isn't            something that happens to me.
It is a choice.


I do believe that when love is possible it should be given every        chance to work/thrive...unless it compromises my happiness/values or goals. I don't believe in sacrificing myself for another--EVER.   

                I believe with the right person I can still be me,part of an **us** but still retain my individuality.**Losing myself** to            someone else IS NOT an option.I will always be more important to  myself than that--after all,when all is said and done,I am all that I     have.                                                                                         

                    I believe love can overcome all and survive--but must be a work in progress.It requires effort and this
is why I dislike the term **falling in love**.I prefer **growing in love**.

My lil models

  • Aug. 6th, 2008 at 9:25 PM
  I found this while going through my bookmarks...
                                   
Readymechs are free, flatpack toys for you to print and build. They are designed to fit on an 8.5"x11" page and printed with any printer. You’ll need double-sided tape, thick matte paper, and 10-15 minutes for build time.

                           I am also into zcards, basically they are tiny lil models.here is a  pic of the many I have completed.
                                                      
                                                 

**You do NOT ask questions .....

  • Jul. 20th, 2008 at 5:07 AM
This is a randomly gathered network of individuals united in the pursuit of experiences beyond the pale of mainstream society through subversion, pranks, art, fringe explorations and meaningless madness.

You may already be a member!




Ok...if you have the time( and skillz, and actually care :P ), you will be able to find it on your own,but if not,just comment and I will send you the link(s).

                  
If we’re not careful, our group’s reputation as a haven for subversive geniuses is going to be publicly overtaken by the reality that all we are is extremely creative alcoholics. Do you really want the truth to come out?
                 
                      I think this is going to be a lot of fun.

"You may already be a member!" says a lot about how we operate. In a sense, we never create anything new at all. We never claim to come into a town and teach people how to be amusingly subversive. They're already doing it! We just raise the bogus flag, and see who will gather under the flagpole for further mischief.

                                    ****************************************************************


The creation and deployment of outrageous, unsettling material. False flyers, and tracts, billboard alterations, toasters glued to walls, bodies outlined in chalk on sidewalks, placement on shelves of bogus products "cement cuddlers." and booths offering services such as free casts for unbroken arms. Involves more work than the costumed street theater because slick presentations are needed to really deceive the public. Lots of talk generally about these more difficult events; follow through harder. Often carried out in solitude or quick nocturnal hits. Fear factor plus laborious preparation makes these the hardest events to pull off, those restricted to the dedicated few.

                      So much fun with this one...**VEG**
                         

The room.....

  • Jul. 20th, 2008 at 12:13 AM
                      Lately, I know I have been a bit reclusive again.I needed some time to think about **things**, I have a few new projects, and have been spending a lot of my free time working on my room.As of tomorrow I am **heavily sighs** packing up my room.I had waited til now because I was enjoying the new way I rearanged it.
                                              



                                             And while I am at it--this is **Mission Control**
                                              

                                 And the color scheme I am going for....
                                               
                                                  
                             Only with black...and skulls.                                
                                                          
                                                                          

A few good books....

  • Jul. 18th, 2008 at 8:04 PM
This is what I do when there is stuff floating in my head tht I really should talk about....like Jarrod's painful message yesterday on myspace about missing his Uncle Kent.And Kelli's big news...and the ex who is in prison.And how things have gotten so stressful on some ends I need a break.
                                        But I refuse.
So...meanwhile back on the ranch...


                        Here are a couple of books on my required reading list.These are books I own,couldn't put down,and reread in times of strife and abject boredom.I highly reccomend them...most are nonfiction,with a few noteworthy exceptions.

                                       
                                        DISCO BlOODBATH:
                   a Fabulous but True Story of Murder in Clubland
                             (Taken verbatim from book jacket)

When was the last time you read a story about murder and degradation that made you laugh out loud? When was the last time you read something that you just had to share with somebody and soon had you reading passages aloud? When was the last time you read something that was so startling that it made you think, "My God, not only am I not in Kansas anymore, I'm not even sure what planet I'm on!"

Well, welcome to the world of Disco Bloodbath, and the crazy, maddening, terrifying, bizarre, and totally charming people who inhabit it, doing all sorts of unspeakable things to each other -- and to themselves -- all in an effort to keep ennui at bay just for one more day.

Disco Bloodbath is a dazzling, dizzying, amazingly vivid, and startlingly fresh look at a subculture that for several years pranced its hedonistic way across the dance floors of New York City's trendiest clubs. It is also perhaps the funniest book about a murder you will ever read. Like its author, who experienced it all and has lived to tell the tale, it's a true original.

When self-proclaimed king of club kids and party promoter extraordinaire Michael Alig was convicted in November 1996 of killing a drug dealer known as Angel, a spotlight was trained on a world few people even knew existed. Author James St. James knew that world, of course; in fact, he was one of its creators. He also knew the rules, knew them inside out, because he helped write them. And while it was a life and a lifestyle in which just about anything was acceptable so long as it wasn't boring, murder was considered a no-no. So when Alig confessed his part in the crime to St. James, our author knew that there could be no going back -- and that this time the party really was over.

Now, in this unflinching tell-all book, James St. James leads the reader into the bizarre, almost surreal universe of abandon and gender-bending amorality, decadence, and drugs that he knew so well. And in a writing style as addictive as any drug, he details the rise and fall of Michael Alig, a kid from South Bend, Indiana, who burst on the downtown scene in the 1980s and quickly rose to the top as the mastermind of parties so outrageous that they became the stuff of legend.

Like its author and the people it depicts, this exposé is outrageous and fascinating, much like seeing an accident on the side of the road that you feel compelled to stare at. Hysterically funny, heartbreakingly tragic, and wickedly decadent, Disco Bloodbath is both St. James's attempt at closure and a stunning literary achievement.

                      Rare in this printing and hard to come by,if you can get this book hold on to it.I have seen copies for as much as 300$ and as lil as 80$.It spawned the movie **Party Monster**, which is also one of my recent fave play it all week long over and over movies.

Memorable Quotes:
"Funny, that no matter where you are in the world, there's always someone eager to help you destroy yourself."
"Evil must be baked at 650 degrees."



                                               


From Publishers Weekly
Starred Review. Lavender, writer and online publisher of the parenting zine Hip Mama, holds nothing back as she recounts her life spent in and out of hospitals and her subsequent dissociation from her own body and emotions. She struggles with health problems from birth, which are compounded by her surroundings, including frequent encounters with street fights, domestic violence and poverty. Her voice is as strong as the front she puts up for the multitude of doctors she sees, and it's hard not to be in awe of what one fragile human being can withstand in the course of such a short lifetime (Lavender is now 35). Before Lavender has graduated from high school, she's endured cancer of the throat and skin (diagnosed as terminal at one point), cysts requiring massive jaw surgery, life-threatening allergies, internal infections and a major car accident resulting in multiple serious injuries. While Lavender herself steers far from any sort of self-aggrandizing, and her prose is somewhat inexpert, witnessing her strength and sheer determination to live makes this striking book completely engrossing. When questioned once about how she sees herself, Lavender explains, "primary identity is found in my body, in the scars, in the injuries and injustice and disease and decay." Lavender's struggles continue as she faces childbirth and recurrent health difficulties, but as her challenges grow, so does her strength to meet them, and this unforgettable memoir ends with Lavender's desire to "live as much as possible while I have the time."


   Relatively short at 160 pages,this is an amazing book about an amazing person.Instead of wallowing Bee presents her narrative with wry humor and a matter of factness seen rarely in memoirs.Even just searching it for quotes had me enthralled once again....

Extras:
Memorable Quote:
**Don't cry,because your tears will dissolve the adhesive of our armor.Don't cry,because you need to fight.**

An excellent interview with Bee is here.
Another book Bee recomends is
: Hazel Wolf: Fighting the Establishment


You met where????

  • Jul. 16th, 2008 at 7:13 AM
The most bizarre niche dating sites on the net...enjoy!(No...really--these are real...)
  - Smokers and smoke Fetishists
  - Mimes (Do you think they have chatrooms??)
  - Get out your eye patches and peglegs,cuz yes it's pirates.
  - People who will enjoy your stupid **mustache rides 5cents** t-shirt here.
  - Those who just aren't into the meatmarket....here.
  - And the unfortunately named Earth Wise Singles... http://www.ewsingles.com/

  More interesting stuff while I am on the topic.Just when **meterosexuals** is widely used,now there's ecosexuals.

Ok--so this next one is a parody...but of one of my fave sites, so I will post it here.Also a parody is the hilarious one here.

Everything and nothing..........

  • Jun. 25th, 2008 at 6:48 PM
Been a while since I wrote here...even tho I am still not working I stay pretty busy most of the time.I have become quite the Myspace whore, even adding comments en masse to my special people every few days.I have found old friends there...Deana and Sean,Missy and Shawn,Rubin, Paula,Jimmy etc.Plus my mom and 3 sibs...its a bit to keep up with but I manage.Still awaiting news on Ash's impending arrival......
                  I spend a lot of time with someone new...herefore refered to as **Sir**.I am kinda of smitten..he is so smart and amazingly sweet I am kind of in awe.Altho we have only been talking since the 16th,it seems like we have known each other a long time.If it were not me I might wax on about **kindred spirits,soul mates** etc.
                 I rarely think of Chad at all anymore.
                It's hard to know exactly what is good,and loving,when you have only had good relationships.Luckily along those guidelines I have been blessed....lol.It does make whenever he is incredibly sweet to me even more so....and he is a lot.:) That added to a general perfect compatibility in many areas....and I can't stop grinning.:D

An update on my major renovations...

  • May. 27th, 2008 at 11:03 PM
                             I have been quite the busy one lately...I am kicking myself for not taking before pics of my room, because there has been major progress made.In the last few weeks have put my bed together,got, disasembled and reasembled  a wardrobe for my large collection of clothes, and I have taken tons of things elsewhere in the house(going up a total of 52 steps each time!),as well as gone thru years of boxes of stuff and thrown away about 9 bags of trash.
                            In the alcove I have set up my desk...with my pc,  Sirius radio, tv and vcr, as well as a place for my video tapes and library books.I also found a lamp(same one I used at 14...), and framed many family pics as well as one of my Brom prints....
                       I have plans to frame more pics, add a mirror to the wardrobe,put away my clothes(we just finished putting the wardrobe together earlier),finish staining the window sil,find curtains, and lots more...
                                I love it tho--I have the biggest and most spacious room in the house.:)We still have to finish the room,putting up insulation and (I hope) Dad plans to hire someone to finish the walls.The irregular walls would make it hard to put up the drywall ourselves.But I am working hard to make it **my** space...and can hardly wait to have a lil cash to buy a few things...like curtains,more pillows,a black futon cover and new sheets....
   I love new adventures!

Dark travels...

  • May. 16th, 2008 at 8:49 PM
I like cemetaries...and graveyards,headstones,mausoleums....
                             
                                                  And especially statues.


What's another word for Euphemism????

  • May. 16th, 2008 at 8:46 PM
Just for fun...try this(PG 13) link....

No subject...Just an update

  • May. 16th, 2008 at 8:35 PM
I could either rant on and on...or completely ignore the subject, so I am chosing to do something in the middle.Just an update...
               I am good actually.I am reallllllly happy lately, and it has been clarifying and interesting.I have made a list of about a million things I have to acomplish....and slowly checking them off.I have gotten a lot done around the house(cleaning and whatnot...) and tht has definately helped.
                        I am not sure if I am in shock/denial or what...but...I have handled this breakup with the coldest of blood.I feel...weird tht I feel nothing.But it is not particularly supprising...me, disassociate...really?
                 I am not obsessing,or checking places online where I know he is....or even wanting to talk to him at all.I had to take the slideshow of my pics off cause some of them gave me an inner *ping* heart wise...but other than tht?I am not upset.After leaving I cried for maybe 45 seconds...tht is it.Four year relationship.Seems odd....Must be my way of coping.
             So...I am happy.On with the posting...

So this is my train....

  • May. 10th, 2008 at 8:42 PM
I should be packing....but not even sure where to begin.
                                        I am curiously calm...it is truly bizarre.Maybe its the herbal trancs I am downing every five mins or so.A friend said it must be shock...I will buy tht.
                                      I am going home...tis{from what I am feeling..} over with Chad.

About last night.....

  • May. 10th, 2008 at 8:20 AM
So....just when I think things are clearing up.....
                                I am back on Relacore, and it seems to be helping.It  definitely helps me relax..and not take things so seriously.I am pretty sure tht is why I am not majorly depressed today.Right now I am waiting a few minutes..and then taking a shower.
                            So Chad just found out he needs surgery.A very big deal, I must say.The doctor also told him he will prob need 5 more surgeries in his lifetime as well.So far,Chad is not exactly dealing with all this all tht well. a few days ago,before the doctors appointment,he even told me he has been thinking of going back on antidepressants...talk about a giant leap backwards, but okay.I can understand tht tho.
                          Meanwhile he won't really talk about things....usually if he does talk about anything significant it is when he is very,very buzzed.Last night I overheard him talking to a friend who said **I hope things get back in order with Trude**. I tried to get him to talk about it,all he would say is **Things aren't good**.Really????? Omg I didn't notice...{must be the relacore..this is kind of cracking me up...}.First thing I said was **And tht is my fault??**
                      So....since he won't really talk about things....I am just doing what I need to do for me.I know his life sucks right now, but there is nothing I can do about it anyways.All I can do is get up, do what I have to do, get another job assignment, and try to keep myself happy and occupied.{Gee I sound so sane....}.Cause right now he has got a lot to deal with.....and its not like he is female and has the capacity to communicate or anything.....{true...but wouldn't I be labeled a bitch If I told him this??????}

Finally a diagnosis......

  • May. 7th, 2008 at 5:06 PM
  Chad just called me after his Doctors appointment....
                  This is the 5th doctor he has seen.We have been to a chiropractic surgeon, 6 months of physical therapy, a neurosurgeon...we have done the rounds.Early on he had a MRI done, and each doctor looked at it.So the new doctor today looked at it as well.....
             And saw tht Chad has a ruptured disk.
                         Eight months along he finally discovered this.Chad will be having another MRI, and surjery on June 6th.....
                     More on this and my **on again** job search later....

Mail Out

  • Feb. 5th, 2008 at 1:31 AM
I just mailed these out from the local post office...so they are actually going out in tomorrow's mail.

Swaps:
*3 sheet sticker swap  via Addicted_to_Snailmail_Pen_pals yahoo group to Celeste F. 33617

* 10 memo sheet swap via
Addicted_to_Snailmail_Pen_pals  yahoo group to Roxee E. 49331

*  Stickers Galore(5 sheet stickers) via Swap-bot to Mike W. 49008

* 2 sheet Valentine's day stickers via Extremely_Long_Snailmail_Letters yahoo group to

Marissa D. 25404

* Envie of Deco clippings to Tanya T. 19602

Other:

*Letter to Kim C. 80017

And tht is all of my outgoing for the moment--will be working on letters tonight.I am going to find a few more swaps-getting the swaps ready as soon as I signed up for them definately helped!! I feel so organized...            

Odd Thursday

  • Jan. 24th, 2008 at 1:57 PM
  I found this recently--and it seems I am on an **Odd Thursday Weapon** kick dosen't it??
                                                       

Mail Out

  • Jan. 23rd, 2008 at 12:50 PM
- Card and stickers Beth L. 42633

- Card to Jack

- Intro Nikki R. 17020

- condolence card Pam S.  74129

- Letter Sheila A. 67401

                   Will be working on more tonight when I get home from work....

Just a quick FYI....

  • Jan. 17th, 2008 at 12:45 PM
I got a job!!!! I start today, it is at a plastics company just outside of town.I work from 3-8, but have weekends off...thankfully cuz otherwise I might never see the kids. :)
                                                  Meanwhile--I am fine.I am starting to think I am bipolar--and got some books on it, so will keep ya'll posted. IF I am bipolar--simple antidepresents won't work.But Chad and I have been doing much much better...and actually having a good time and talking again.:D
                               I will write more tonight when I get home(I think...)....
  Love you Sis...sorry I haven't called.....

Mail out...

  • Jan. 8th, 2008 at 11:50 AM
Have decided to post mail out on Mondays...so a day behind now.Anyways...I have been working on stuff and adding to my pile of letters for a month now,and this is what i got stamps on so far. They will be going out with todays mail.
Intros:
 *Rebecca N. 89110
 * Loretta B.   41101
 * Lydie G.     97424

  * Prize from Hangman on Addicted to snail mail yahoo group to Roxee E. 49331
  * FB homer to Susan B. 52302
  * Letter to Cole H. 33871